Guide to Writing & Delivering a Great Wedding Speech or Toast

Guide to Writing & Delivering a Great Wedding Speech or Toast

Writing a wedding speech can be one of the most intimidating and nerve-racking tasks for the members of a modern day wedding party. Whether you're the father of the bride, the groom, the best man or the bridesmaid and have never had a problem telling jokes or giving a public speech, the idea of the 'wedding speech' can get you cold feet.

Writing a decent wedding speech isn't as difficult as it seems. Wedding guests are positive listeners; they will be supportive, they don't expect much, they want to laugh, and will, even if you're not funny, so don't put too much pressure on yourself. To help you prepare and deliver a quality wedding speech, we've put together some helpful tips.



Father of the Bride Speech

  • Keep it short.
  • Tell your daughter how beautiful she looks, how capable and awesome she is and how proud you are of her.
  • Keep jokes to a minimum.
  • Say something (nice) about marriage and thank your wife. 
  • Thank the guests for coming - If there's one or two who have come from afar to be there, or some elderly guests you'd like to mention, thank them too.
  • Finish by welcoming your son or daughter-in-law into the family and tell everyone to enjoy their night. That’s it!

    Groom/Bride Wedding Speech

  • Thank guests by telling them how overwhelmed you are to have them here.
  • Tell your partner how beautiful he or she looks.
  • Mention the groomsmen, bridesmaids, and how fantastic they've been helping you to plan/help with the wedding.
  • Thank your parents and family for their support and love throughout the years.
  • Thank your partner’s parents for raising the woman of your dreams and for accepting you into the family.
  • Mention any marriage advice you've been given, funny or otherwise.
  • The longest and most heartfelt part of your speech should be all about your partner. Mention how lucky you are, how much you're looking forward to growing old with him/her, the little things he/she does that you love and how supportive and great he/she has been.

    Best Man Wedding Speech

  • Introduce yourself and how you know the couple. 
  • Thank the groom for choosing you as Best Man - This can be a lighthearted part, like how you were chosen over the others.
  • Talk about your relationship with the groom, add in some anecdotes but remember it's a family affair, so keep the jokes clean and don't mention anything inappropriate.  
  • DON’T mention anyone's ex!
  • Keep the inside jokes to a minimum - your guests will be lost.
  • Tell everyone how incredible the couple are, how they've changed each other, how good they are to each other and how happy you are for them. 
  • Propose a toast!

    Maid of Honour/Bridesmaid Wedding Speech

  • Introduce yourself
  • Thank the bride for choosing you as a bridesmaid/maid of honour, and tell everyone how you felt being asked.
  • Talk about the bride, you can have a little bit of fun with this - say how she never/always wanted to get married or how she planned her wedding years ago.
  • Tell the bride/groom how happy how happy you are for them both.
  • Thank the parents for doing such a good job on two amazing people.
  • Toast the happy couple and tell the guests you'll see them on the dancefloor!